i love train rides alone.
they allows me to ponder about things in life.
except for the occasional "sudden thrusts-forwards"
(okay thrust as in being pushed forward.not the wrong meaning.)
it ironically slows things down in life.
it gives me an opportunity to look around
and be aware of things that are happening before they were actually gone.
once i observed how a friendship germinated just because of one action from one party.
people say:
"it takes two hands to clap."
i say:
"it takes one to start the ball rolling."
but of course,
its important that the other party knows how to catch the ball and roll it back.

it started of with a seat.
amazing huh??
a seat + two people = a friendship
i was standing near the door as usual on the train.
when i saw this lady in her twenties reading a book.
the rest of the commuters were doing the usual stuff too.
reading,listening to mp3,or with their lappies.
perhaps one or two were taking forty winks.
anyway,at the next stop,
an old lady boarded the train. carrying quite a few bags.
And then,without warning, right on cue,
everyones eyelids just seem to be shut closed-
without premeditation.
or is it?
anyway,all except for this lady fell asleep simultaneously.
she stood up and gave this old lady her seat without much thought.
while the rest clinged onto their seats as if it were their lives.
some looked as if they were on a rollercoaster ride
as their eyes were so tightly shut due to lack of sleep for years i suppose.
the two women,age difference of about forty years i estimated,
chatted as if they knew each other from forty years way back!
they went to the extent of exchanging each other's number
and i heard them talking about meeting up in time to come.
its really nice to see how a friendship can start growing just like that.

no friendships can sprang to life effortlessly.
they germinated like seeds, needing sun, rain, and a long growing season.
A friendship has to develop in its own time.
If you try to rush things, you can scare someone away.
If something serious is bothering you, air it.
If you don't, the relationship may wither needlessly.
Finally, cut people some slack.
We should learn to try to keep our eyes on what's important
and make our peace with small disappointments.
I will definitely learn that.
If others do the same for me, I know we'll be friends for a long time. (=

"Never let a problem to be solved become more important than the person to be loved."